Why Reaching Goals Together Is Important?

A Shoulder To Lean on In Personal Development

When you are trying to better yourself, one of the worst things you can do for yourself is to try and do it alone. It can be very difficult to do anything by yourself, whether it is losing weight, learning a language, or trying to quit smoking. Having someone with you can make it much easier to fulfill your goals not only because you will have support, but because you will have someone to push you as well.

When you are accountable to no one, it can be easy to not do what you want with reaching your goals. If you are trying to lose weight and have to exercise, it can be easy to choose not to exercise if no one will be watching you and ensuring you do. As a result, you end up just not doing it, and that leads you to failing in your goals. However, when you are accountable, you have someone paying attention and they will call you on it if you do not accomplish the goals you set out.

If you don’t go exercise, they will ask why aren’t you exercising. If you start smoking, they will ask you why you started. Eventually, you will reach your goals to show the other person that you can indeed do it.

However, it is not only about keeping you honest. When you are involved in personal development, it can be had to feel as though you are making progress. You may become depressed and if there is no one you can talk to, you may end up failing in your quest of personal development. Now, if you have someone with you, they can talk with you and work with you to ensure that you do feel motivated and as though you are making progress.

When someone is there telling you that you can do it, that you are going to reach your goals, well it is like having a personal trainer for your confidence. Just like a regular personal trainer who helps you tone your muscles and get fit, a confidence personal trainer keeps your self-esteem high, and keeps you wanting to strive towards your goals. They are very valuable to have, and they can help you achieve everything that you want.

It is not always easy to reach our goals and often our biggest enemy is ourselves. We will get down on ourselves, get depressed and think we just are not going to make it. As a result, you may feel as though there is no chance of ever having success. When you have someone who is a shoulder you can lean on, you have someone who will keep you going and give you that little push that gets you towards the end zone. They are also the ones who keep you going when you are feeling lazy because they feel a sense of accomplishment when they help you reach your accomplishments.

Who is your confidence personal trainer?

To streamline and minimize blog maintenance, I will be discontinuing maintaining the Simplepersonaldevelopment.com website (however, I will still hold the domain). I will gradually move all articles from this site to Ahmed Dawn Dot Com. This article originally published on the above website on Sep 30, 2010.

 

How To Start A Personal Development Plan

Learn To Accept Change

It may not be very easy to exactly pin point where personal development would begin or end. But we could comfortably say that anything that involves an aspect that could lead to your own individual transformation can get included in personal development. This all revolves around a resolution that one makes to try and become a better person than they were yesterday. When we get to look inwards, we try and improve the person that we discover, as opposed to when we try and compete with another individual. Personal development is all about you against any form of mediocrity you find in you and would like to see an improvement.

Those who have undergone any form of personal development training realize the importance of beginning by writing down all that you are and what you intend to do about it. It does not have to be anything complex. The simpler it is the easier it becomes to relate with it and accomplish. When you put things down in pen and paper it helps your mind to actually clarify them to make them realties. And since this kind of plan is personal, it should not appear as if it is cast in concrete, so there should be freedom and flexibility as and when circumstances allow.

The good news about a successful self development plan is that you can actually begin today or as soon as you finish reading this article, and it really may not matter how fast or how far you go. You can take your baby steps by building on what you learn on the first day you decide to do something about yourself. You need to learn how to make your agenda into a goal that can be broken down into small achievable steps. The advantage of doing this is that when you achieve one small feat, you have the incentive and motivation to move on to another one with the knowledge that you can actually make because you will have results on your side.

As a good student in the self development school you can save yourself a lot of valuable time and energy learning from the examples and experiences of other people. If people have made mistakes from particular choices you can get to avoid such because experience may never be the best of teacher. Someone said if you let experience be your only teacher, time will teach you the bitterly cold truth, but will take your youth in exchange. One of the easiest ways to learn from other people is by reading self development books and picking all the golden nuggets you find in there to make them your own.

If there is one thing that you must realize and take real note of, is that the only consistent thing on earth is change. Learn to accept the fact that change is inevitable and you will be best placed to survive if you can anticipate change and be able to adapt to it as soon as you realize it is there to stay. People all through history have had to change their belief systems and their ideas about many things and systems. You can imagine that if it were not for change, all the development you see today would simply be in the minds of people.

To streamline and minimize blog maintenance, I will be discontinuing maintaining the Simplepersonaldevelopment.com website (however, I will still hold the domain). I will gradually move all articles from this site to Ahmed Dawn Dot Com. This article originally published on the above website on Nov 27, 2010.

How To Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Breaking Out of Your Comfort Zone

When you are trying to become confident and reach your goals in personal development, it can be important to get out of your comfort zone. By getting out of your comfort zone and enjoying it, you gain confidence and self-esteem, which is very important if you want to better yourself. In order to get out of your comfort zone, you need to do the following:

1. First of all, don’t be afraid of looking stupid. That is one of the biggest things that holds people back. Just be stupid. Make a fool of yourself, jump around and act dumb. Whatever you need to do to break the ice. You will find that not only do you enjoy it, the consequences are not going to be anything near as bad as you though they would be.

2. The only thing to fear is fear itself. This is very true and you should live by this adage. If you are afraid of something, face it. If you do not like spiders, get surrounded by spiders. If you are afraid of heights, go up to the top of a skyscraper. By doing this, you will realize that most of your fears are groundless and if you can conquer them, you can conquer anything.

3. You need to take pleasure in change and the unknown. You can never know what is going to happen around the corner, but that does not mean you can’t be ready for change when it comes. When the change comes, embrace it and embrace the unknown that it brings. When you do this, you free yourself and you create something for yourself that can be very rewarding. Just accept that there are unknown things and be happy with that. You will find that in the end you are much happier with yourself as a result.

4. Be ready for risks and do not always be afraid of them. Many people do not want to take risks because they are afraid something bad will happen. However, there is just as good of a chance that something great may happen. Sure, not all risks will work out but if you don’t take any risks, you won’t get any rewards. As a result, you need to be ready for risks as they come and you need to take those risks. Get comfortable with the concept of risks and do not be afraid of them. With risk, you may lose something and sometimes that can be very hard to deal with. However, you may also gain something. Look at risk like love. In love, you may lose out and end up having your heart broken, but if you do not take the risk to find someone special, you may never know the joy of finding your soul mate.

Getting out of your comfort zone will help you realize your dreams and achieve things you never thought possible. You just need to be ready and prepared to get out of that comfort zone.

To streamline and minimize blog maintenance, I will be discontinuing maintaining the Simplepersonaldevelopment.com website (however, I will still hold the domain). I will gradually move all articles from this site to Ahmed Dawn Dot Com This article originally published on the above website on Sep 7, 2010.

How To Increase Self-Esteem

Building Your Self-Esteem

If you want to better yourself, you need to have confidence and you can only have confidence if you have high self-esteem. High self-esteem will help you make the right decisions in your life, and it will give you the confidence to make those changes. In order to increase your self-esteem you need to do the following:

1. The first thing that you need to do is to impress yourself because to raise your own self-esteem you have to respect yourself. Find things that challenge yourself and then do it. Maybe run a marathon, write something, or just climb up a big hill, whatever you can do to raise your self-esteem. This is all part of setting goals and then working towards those goals. Achieving goals is probably the best way to gain self-esteem for yourself.

2. Look for things that bring out the best in you, including noble pursuits like academics. By learning more, you feel that you know more and that will give you more self-esteem.

3. Helping another person can make you feel better about yourself. Work at a homeless shelter, volunteer with a charity or environmental organization, become a Big Brother or Big Sister. This can be very rewarding and it can make you feel great about yourself, thereby raising your self-esteem.

4. When you know something, teach someone else how to do it. A good way to raise your self-esteem is to teach someone the skills you have. That will allow you to feel better about yourself because you are passing on something you know to someone else. You are helping a person better themselves, by being a teacher. Your self-esteem will go up and the admiration you get from the person you teach will help you have more confidence.

5. You have to be positive with yourself because if you are positive, you will believe in yourself. If you walk around making bad comments about yourself, you will have low self-esteem. You need to look in the mirror and say something good about yourself. Give yourself confidence because you are your biggest fan. You are the person who believes in yourself and you trust yourself, so if you see yourself telling you that you are a good person who can achieve anything, then you will be able to build your confidence. When you are building your self-esteem, your best friend will be the mirror because you can see yourself and talk to yourself about all the good things you are going to achieve. Your self-esteem will rise up before you know it.

Self-esteem is either high or it is low. If you have low self-esteem, you will have trouble bettering yourself because your low opinion of who you are will keep you from achieving anything. However, if you have high self-esteem, you will believe in yourself and you will achieve the things you want. Self-esteem is extremely important because high self-esteem gives you confidence. Confidence allows you to reach your goals and better who you are as a person.

To streamline and minimize blog maintenance, I will be discontinuing maintaining the Simplepersonaldevelopment.com website (however, I will still hold the domain). I will gradually move all articles from this site to Ahmed Dawn Dot Com. This article originally published on the above website on Aug 14, 2010.

How to set realistic goals

Setting Realistic Goals

One of the biggest mistakes people make when they are bettering themselves is set goals that are too hard to achieve. Goals are very important because they will allow you to be all that you can be, but when you set goals that are too lofty, you can be setting yourself up for failure. This is why it is so important that when you set goals, you set goals that you can achieve not too easily, but not too difficulty either.

An example of this is to say that you want to develop yourself personally by losing 100 pounds in a month. Well, you cannot do this without getting surgery and surgery is often the easy way out and will not allow you to keep the weight off. This is an unrealistic goal. However, if you set a goal of losing 100 pounds in a year and a half, then you are creating a goal that is achievable, but not too easy. If you set a goal of losing 100 pounds in 10 years, you are not challenging yourself enough.

Goals will help as guide posts for your journey to becomi8ng a better person. You will be able to use your goals to determine how you are going to better yourself and the achieving of those goals will show you that you are making progress.

To ensure you do not set goals that are unrealistic, you should do the following:

  1. Make a list of things you can do right now, without much money and with ample time available.

  2. Looking at that list, determine what can be done sooner rather than later, and then sort the items on the list in terms of when they can be done.

  3. At this point, ask yourself each time you read a goal whether you think it is realistic or not. Saying that 100 pounds in six months is not realistic is not cheating; it is being real with yourself.

  4. Based on the answers you give for each question, adjust your goals accordingly so that you can ensure you have created goals that you will be able to achieve without having to set yourself up for failure.

One of the biggest reasons people fail in their goals is that they set themselves up for failure. Running a marathon is a great goal, but if you have never run a marathon before and plan to next weekend, you are only setting yourself up to fail at that task. As a result, you will want to ensure that you make that goal realistic because then when you achieve it, you will feel that much better at your accomplishment.

Goals are one of the most important things to have for yourself, and they will show you that you are doing well with bettering yourself. Talk with people about your goals and ask them whether they think they are realistic. They may say they are not, but that does not mean you have to listen to them. The only person you must listen to is yourself.

To streamline and minimize blog maintenance, I will be discontinuing maintaining the Simplepersonaldevelopment.com website (however, I will still hold the domain). I will gradually move all articles from this site to Ahmed Dawn Dot Com. This article originally published on the above website on July 25, 2010.